My story. Advice needed

[LANE777]

So in Feb I could kinda tell that my W just really wasn't liking me. Kind of snappy. I thought it was because she didn't feel good. She has kidney disease and is in need of a transplant. I was leaving her alone thinking she was sick. Then she told me she wanted to move to her parents on April 7. She left and came back an hour later saying that she wanted to work it out at home. So I babied her like none other.. probably over did it. But then on May 20 she told me she still wasn't feeling it. I didn't know there was another guy in the works. She told me she might have feeling for some one but hasn't acted on them. So she moved out and I begged and pleaded for 2 weeks. Then I stopped and gave her time and space to make up her mind. On July 9 I was all emotional and called and pressured her to tell me what she wants and who she wants. She told me that day she wanted a D. I was devastated and have been ever since. Everyday I am scared it will get worse and worse so I avoid talking to her. So I know she had been crushing on the guy at work for at least 2 years. And then she left and it opened up the doors. She was probably have an EA for months but then I asked how far they had gone. She said only kissing but you know I know better. It really [censored] bad that she is caught up in this infatuation and can't get out. I know she will wake up from the fog and realize the damage she did to me and family. And what type of guy chases a 38 year old woman married with 4 kids??? He is single 33 year old...must be hard up and his issues will surface like nude pictures of Madonna. So my sitch is brand new to me but probably a year in the making for the W. She keeps telling me that she had been wanting to leave for a long time. I don't believe that. I am not abusive what so ever. I don't drink or go out...Im a family man!! Love to come home to family and now its gone!