My story. Advice needed

[LANE777]

You said it I buddy "I know i need to detatch and do my own thing but its so tough sometimes"

equalzr,
I am right there with you. I decided today is the day I detach. My W moved out 2 months ago because she needed time and space to go find her self. Turns out there was an OM in the works. Now she wants a D.
I know for a fact we will struggle through the detach. But think about what everyone has been saying. If and when you detach the sooner you get a life and move on to happiness. If she sees you doing great and having fun then it might just get her to come see whats going on. If you don't, then your just dragging this on and its torture!!! I know this pain you feel and the anxiety is unbearable. If she going to a " work conf" then I say grit your teeth now and dig into the detach phase. You can't control what goes on there. If anything the more time they spend together just might and will bring out the flaws of the OM. Affairs hardly ever last. She is in a limerence and you need to break that Fog by detaching from her and showing you can live on your own.
Right now I am home with my kids while my W is probably hanging out with OM right now. It does drive me crazy but like you I will detach. Good luck and stay calm and be strong. It will all come crashing down soon.