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[jaylove]

Yes I have been following Sandy’s rules, not persuing etc I’ve also lost just under 28lbs in six weeks through a vigorous amount of daily exercise, careful diet and anxiety, making an effort to dress sharp, doing piles of washing, drying and cooking for the family too.
W is going abroad with the kids on the family holiday we booked 3 months ago, so I’ll be left at home on my own.
I’m starting to look into whether I have issues as someone who needs to be co-dependant - as mentioned in my first post I lost my first wife tragically 14 years ago when I was 34, I was left with two boys aged 3 and 5 and when I met my current w it certainly filled a massive void in my life, but I’m starting to realise that I’ve defined myself as a man who needs to be in a relationship to be complete.
I’m going to work on being complete just on my own, somehow. Right now with the W having already filed the divorce petition it has opened up the wounds of the loss of my first wife, so I very much fear being on my own.