I know, and I'm not going to do it. It's just extremely frustrating feeling this way. I'm actually in a message exchange right now with my old high school girlfriend whose ex H left her and their 2 kids a few years ago for another woman. She is the girl I lost my virginity to and the last serious relationship I had before my W. I'm talking to her because she has been through the pain of D and having to move forward after. She's with a great guy now (also an LBS himself), and is doing really well. She's giving me good advice and understands where I'm at emotionally having been in a similar position.
M: 40 W: 37 T: 20 MR: 13 S13, S9, S4 BD: 1/29/18 Sep: 4/23/18 (I moved out) 8/24/18 I come home, she moves out
If you want to get out of the hole, drop the shovel.