Two does not make a pattern but I thought I'd share this. I told you that I had dated a widow that I met while on a band road trip. As an aside I've not seen her in over a year and not talked much since then either. Oddly enough her birthday was on Monday so we caught up via text a little bit yesterday and still going today. Funny how that works. Anyhow my point here is I think I told you that of the women I've gone out with in the past several years I liked her the most. However, she too was very reserved physically. We had such a great first date - that after meeting and spending time together at a beer tasting in her home town. Yet she would not let me kiss her, initiated no physical contact and seemed a bit stiff when I touched her. This got better over time but in our texts yesterday she's told me about how her move to Florida has been "transformative". As I said, just because we've both experienced the same type of thing from a widow does not mean they are all alike. Still, I'm sure it's very, very hard for anyone who loses someone to move on. Being a LBS is one thing but that still leaves the door open for Hope. There is a chance for R. That is fully impossible after death.
I think your senses are right in that she really will need someone who goes slow with her as she is dealing with much, much more than dating someone new.
DonH Midwest Me 56 WAW-EXW 55 Met 11/95 / Married 5/00 Bomb 6/20/05 / She Filed on 6/2/06 / Divorced on 10/9/06 4 who'd qualify as GF since D & dated about 25 women since D
You just slip out the back, Jack Make a new plan, Stan You don't need to be coy, Roy Just get yourself free Hop on the bus, Gus You don't need to discuss much Just drop off the key, Lee And get yourself free
LOL...ok I ended it. I told her that I was sorry, I needed to cancel the date on Friday and that I wasn't feeling a connection and didn't want to string both of us along. I told her it was great getting know you and I wish her the best.
