Moving On To The Bright Side 2

[DonH]

Two does not make a pattern but I thought I'd share this. I told you that I had dated a widow that I met while on a band road trip. As an aside I've not seen her in over a year and not talked much since then either. Oddly enough her birthday was on Monday so we caught up via text a little bit yesterday and still going today. Funny how that works. Anyhow my point here is I think I told you that of the women I've gone out with in the past several years I liked her the most. However, she too was very reserved physically. We had such a great first date - that after meeting and spending time together at a beer tasting in her home town. Yet she would not let me kiss her, initiated no physical contact and seemed a bit stiff when I touched her. This got better over time but in our texts yesterday she's told me about how her move to Florida has been "transformative". As I said, just because we've both experienced the same type of thing from a widow does not mean they are all alike. Still, I'm sure it's very, very hard for anyone who loses someone to move on. Being a LBS is one thing but that still leaves the door open for Hope. There is a chance for R. That is fully impossible after death.

I think your senses are right in that she really will need someone who goes slow with her as she is dealing with much, much more than dating someone new.