WW-is there hope? Any advise from former WW's

[LANE777]

Hi Andrew and nice to meet you. I think you right. Im sure its a WW. And yes, even though it was so sudden for me it took 2 years in the making for her to go past her breaking point. She has made up her mind.
The more I read into Sandi's story and her advise the more I need to change everything that I am doing. I have been the "nice guy" letting her be a cake eater. She is definitely operating on a high. At this point Im just going to have to change the way I have been doing things. Ive given her space and time but I have always been the one to make contact. I will text about the kids but I feel I am overly nice about it...like at the end I would say Have a good day etc.
I just need to get to the point where I am not thinking about the next contact.

Yesterday she had the day off. I was at work. She came to my house to take my son to dentist. My daughter was sick in bed. She checked on her and then took s to dentist. She came back and dropped him off and then left for the rest of the day. If that were me and I was off I would have taken them with me and spent time or just taken care of them. To me that is very selfish. Later that night my oldest daughter called to see what she was doing. She said just hanging out at a friends house. So OM. I didn't sleep very well. She takes the kids tomorrow for 3.5 days.

I really hate that this is happening. I don't want a D at all. I think she feels guilty having an A and want to get the D to put those feelings away.

Today I am not going to text or reach out in anyway. Hopefully I can go for a while and see what happens.

Thanks for giving me a few pointers. Actually most of them I am on top of.