Friends: Season 2--The air has cleared

[sage]

Okay, I am jumping in the pool here at the collective thread. My individual story is pretty much ended, I think. As soon as finances permit, I will be filing for a divorce. I found out about an additional past OW (17) who got pregnant, and lost the baby at 6 and a half months, then walked in on my H with yet another OW. So I am done with my M and my H.

Hey Myrrh,
Sigh. Hugs to you. I'm sure that this revelation was quite painful.

Let me ask you this...is the decision to D and move on post-this-disclosure in some way penalizing h for (ultimate, late-to-the-game but valid nonetheless) honesty?

IOW, did your discovery of this come from improved intimacy and honesty and steps forward for you guys and now you're recoiling from it?

Know what I mean? Like, if h came to me and said "look, I need to tell you, in the spirit of total honesty, that XYZ happened a year ago" and I told him "that's a deal breaker" -- what would that mean?

Sage