I told her Id think your income would control what car you have (she has no income). But its her money and her decision, I cant control her. So I said ok I understand Im glad youre happy with your decision... validate right?
A couple of things.
First read the validation thread. "I am glad...." isn't validation. It is AGREEMENT. Validation is not agreement. You are not giving approval or disapproval in validation, simply recognizing her feeling. "I understand you feel you need a new vehicle." Something like that. You don't agree or disagree or use language that suggests one or the other.
Second, her getting this car suggests to me that she doesn't feel the support is temporary. Did, you know I was against the temporary support from the beginning. I will restate for newbies reading this, you shouldn't be "enabling" your spouse to leave you through VOLUNTARY support. In other words, unless it is court-ordered, don't give them a dime in order to move out.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
