Wife is not who I married...Pls Help Pt5

[HelenaJ]

LW, when someone tells you STFU it is meant to minimize, intimidate, devalue what you are saying and shutdown meaningful conversation. I have been through enough of these types of interactions in my personal life to know it when I see it. And then to have someone else witness it and say "thank you". ?? Blows my mind and is definitely not congruent with you in the next breath telling me to keep posting and that my opinions have value. Well thanks, but I do at least know at this stage in my life that my opinions have value. The question is, do they have value to you? It seems not as you didn't address a single thing I said in my second post.

This is supposed to be a supportive forum, free for people to share and to speak their experiences in order to help others and I may be a newbie here today but I posted religiously on these boards for 3 years many years ago and it was a life saving experience, full of supportive people and also people who would push you as close to the edge as they could get you in order to implement needed change. It was great and I learned sooooo much. No one ever let me wallow in my self pity and there was always someone there to suggest something new. I will also say that in those 3 years, no one ever once told me to STFU and if they did I can't imagine anyone else thanking them for saying it.

peace.