He is still in his negative state today and keeps saying how horrible our marriage and how depressed he is feeling. I keep validating him to my hearts content.
I went for an early morning walk with the dog and really thought everything through... and decided that the best I can do is to love him and show him that... but at the same time not being a doormat either. I liked what I found on this site- act as a caring neighbour or the lighthouse story.
Detaching or going dark- which I done last week -does not work, he just gets more distant and I am more frustrated. Being in my best persona I feel more control because now I don't give him any reason to leave me.
Still waiting for DR book to arrive....!
Last edited by MrsJLS; 07/25/1811:17 AM.
W34 H61 M1 T3 June-H said he wants divorce but hasn't filed. Living and sleeping in the same bed, no intimacy from H side for last 12 months.
