WAW - Managing Limbo Period Pt 2

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Thanks David. I see where you are going. Of course I'm tempted by (A). I would like nothing more. I say that to her in my head all the time.

But (B) isn't really what's happening. She actually had the temporary feeling that everything was great yesterday, and yes, I did facilitate that, but reality is very much sinking in today. The kids are of course now starting to struggle, each of them differently. D12, whilst originally putting on a brave face and asking good questions, is now confiding in my W that she wants us to stay together and she can't sleep. I came home last night from some GAL (having just told a friend what is going on), and found W and D12 snuggled in D12's bed to help her sleep. S17 has reacted with belligerence and anger, and S15 doesn't want to talk at all and takes himself to his room whenever possible. W is seeing this and it is hitting home hard. She caused this. She is the one that drove us to this place - not me. I supported her decision, but it wasn't what I wanted. She can see the destruction she has caused and it is killing her. The euphoria of house hunting yesterday has gone. For now. I'll let that sink in for her.

So in fact (A) is happening without me having to do/say anything. I know it's not me vocalizing these things, but she is feeling them away.

I still don't feel I want to tell our friends the full story. It hurts, but I think it's the best way for me and my kids at the moment. Perhaps not textbook, DB-style or even fair, but it's just how I feel. I am so focused on the kids and their well-being that nothing else matters at the moment. How I feel will come into play as things settle down.