Hoosjim's 16th. Looks like we're piecing, folks.

[SteveLW]

I agree, nothing overly troubling here. But I do understand your concerns. HJ I too have been dealing with similar feelings of the "cooling" period. Ours is exacerbated by our move, and we've both been so tired at the end of the day(s). I am hoping once we are done unpacking and have settled in, we'll get back to being more affectionate.

We too haven't had a MC session in a while, again due to the move. I am considering suggesting one, see what her reaction is.

But in general like you, I get none of the vibes I used to. We still pray together every night, we are still in contact throughout the day. And there are still a lot of little things that were all gone prior to BD. The level of engagement in us, the family, church, etc are all back to where they were a year or two ago before she went WW.

HJ, just keep monitoring. Trust is not something that returns over night. She probably expects you to continue to be worried and have moments where it is difficult to trust. I don't think it is snooping in your/my sitch. Trust but verify....it is verification.

Also, I know from past experience that the draw of OM is a difficult thing for women to break. Even if they break contact, there is still curiosity there. Think about girls/women from your past. Depending on the level of your R with them there is probably some curiosity there about them. I know I still have that for women from my past. So it isn't unusual. I say all that to say that is probably all that the search was, curiosity.

Anyway, HJ, just keep working on your changes since everything happened. Nothing has changed, you still can't control her. Only yourself. So cement your changes. Keep up your end of the bargain. And she probably will follow suit!