WAW - Managing Limbo Period Pt 2

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Thanks V. Appreciate your feedback and means a lot that you think I handled it well. Always difficult to know, and you just tend to react in the moment and hope what you are doing/saying is the right thing.

You are right though - I'm being friendly and helpful, partly because of my NGS - it's what I do.. - and partly because I am consciously thinking I want to get on with my W in front of the kids, having just told them we are not arguing and are getting along fine. But you are right - there is a fine line, and at the right time I will state my boundary, which you put very succinctly and clearly above.

Today it has been more of the same. Her being upbeat, chatty, behaving like this is the best thing since sliced bread. I continue to go along with this, for the kids sake, but it is hard to behave like this is what I want too, when it so isn't.

We are starting to have to manage telling friends about what is happening too, and I'm finding this very difficult. The party line is that we have grown apart, that this is a mutual decision, and if anyone asks, there was no third party involved, and for those friends who know us well, this makes absolutely no sense. They are just confused, as they'd never have put us down as a couple that had grown apart and mutually agreed to separate. And I can see the look of disbelief of their faces, as I say with a straight face that we both thought this was best for all of us. But it can't be said any other way if we don't want the kids to learn the truth (which I really don't... at least not yet). So hard, but we just have to get through this next phase where people are inquisitive, gossip and want to know more. Eventually they'll move on, we'll just go our separate ways and things will get better. I hope.

In the meantime, detach, GAL, 180 etc. I suppose I never know if, at the end of all of this, my WAW will have a change of heart. I think it very unlikely, given how delighted she is with the current status quo, but hey, if she does, she does, if she doesn't I will be fine anyway. I really do believe that.