Hi JujuB.

Your question made me think about the progress I’ve made so far, thank you.

I’ve been on holidays & have made new friends. I go to Pilates; am involved in amateur dramatics & I’ve been doing some photography workshops & volunteering. I’m not so good on the exercising; eating or sleeping well so that’s something for me to work on. I have a great supportive family & a job that I enjoy.

My H’s move abroad has forced me to decide to divorce & it’s something I really don’t want to do. It sounds stupid but I’m scared of the process. He is so clever & much more financially aware than me.

I believed that this was a MLC & would come to an end. My H is not the same man as the one that I’ve been married to for all this time. In fact I can’t believe that he’s done this. A young girlfriend; buying a motorbike. - it’s all so out of character for him.

I admit I’ve not been perfect. Who has? I have had jealousy issues although, maybe I was right to have concerns?

I am working on my SE & hoping that the divorce will be as amicable as possible. I would just like to see some light at the end of this long dark tunnel. I could feel that my mood was getting low but I think that I reached rock bottom at the weekend & now the only way is to go upwards!

Thanks for taking the time to reply & for making me see the progress I’ve made.


M 1986
ILYBINILWY Jan 2016
Found out about affair May 2016.
H 57yrs. OW 23 yrs younger.
Separated Sept 2016