Okay then. I accept the challenge. I don't like the shut up and wait approach, as we all know! But, I also realize that I am not getting very far with the commitment to spill the beans approach either.
Resentment is building, and for the first time I am wondering if it is building on both sides. He may be getting resentful of my need for an answer - and while I feel very little pity for him since he's spent the last year chilling out and having fun while I do the adult things - it may be causing some of his actions. I am, of course, resentful because once again things go back to his time frame and the rest of us get to sit around and pick our noses wondering when he's going to remember we exist.
I'm trusting that you're right on the internalizing things...because from where I sit, he hasn't even given anything a second thought!
Okay then, consider me dark. I have work, walking, gardening, book reading, etc to distract me from the fact that things suck. In this darkness I will be very cordial and upbeat when speaking to him, but I will also not wait around for him when he is late. He will have to initiate all contact that doesn't directly come up regarding the children. I already know all of this, but I figured I would clarify what I consider going dark - and then commit to it!
Why? Because truthful answers are better than forced ones.
Thank GOD for you and Pamela, because otherwise, once again, I would not know my emotions from my elbow!
Okay, Mike...find me some thought-provoking things and insight in that mess!
"It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere."
--Agnes Repplier, writer and historian
