Thank you guys for the support. Its funny that I almost have to write my situation out before I can view it from a MLC perspective. Until then its just my life, but once written down I can re-read it and am able to see all the MLC stuff glaring out at me.
Thanks Gerda, I think I've read just about all the Hearts Blessing stuff. Lots of good stuff. I think I need to re-read some of it. Its crazy how many times I might read those kinds of articles and get something new out of it each time. I am able to relate to different aspects as time goes by and my situation changes. I do realize that I must still be closer to the beginning of this, but I'm nearing the 2 year mark and that realization is such a hard one to come to. I know you are past the 5 years mark so I almost feel bad complaining about 2 years.
I believe the kids already know the important truths. They love their mother and want her to be part of their life and don't complain much, but I can tell that they view me as the stable parent. I pay attention, W does not. I actively engage, W fakes it as more of a responsibility rather than an active give and take relationship. She used to be a lot better at it of course.
Skipped making gumbo last night but got everything ready for tonight.
