Agree with MTB. I know I spent so much time focusing on things I did wrong and even things I had blamed myself for that were not my fault. I think it would be helpful if you spend some time writing out a list of things that you did well in your marriage, things that you know you bring by way of value to a relationship, some goals you can look towards accomplishing, and just reasons why you are an awesome person. I think self confidence is really the name of the game when it comes to DB. Certainly for the LBH, the ww has such power in the way they are able to decimate the self-confidence of the LBH and convince them that they are to blame for the downfall of the entire marriage. it sounds to me like you have fallen victim to the most effective tool in the ww toolbox, gaslighting. we all need to accept our responsibility for our contributions to the downfall of our MR, but we must be careful not to accept blame for things that were not our fault. do something nice for yourself man, and get an extra workout in. Those endorphins are magical
M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4 All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18 ----------------------------------------------------- 2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD 2 Major breakups. 2 Rebounds
