Do 180s changing into a better person, but as long as you avoid any pursuing or saying things like "I love you".

Many of the loving behavior that would work before BD in a healthy marriage, will not work and could have a counter effect when dealing MLC/WW/WAS. They could be seen as manipulation or controlling.

When you get chances like you had last night, my personal opinion (some may disagree) is that you should participate in as many family events as possible, but you should make them fun and avoid any R talks. In a way, you want to build good memories your W can remember when she wakes up from her fog.


Me:49 XW:41, M:18 years, Kids: S18,S14
BD:JULY 2017, W moved out: DEC 2017
Filed for D: APR 2019, D Final: JULY 2019