I don't get it

[Gerda]

I have this same problem when my H tells me about his horrify gin childhood, of not knowing how much to respond lest it annoy him. In my case, though, I have known about most of it all our M and it has helped me to stand during MLC.

I agree with Job though I think it's okay to be more specific about what you hear as your way to comfort -- e.g., "I'm so surprised that a mom could do that to her child. That sounds so hard." Or "I could see why you would not want to forgive her after that."

And then go into your closet after and pray for God to soften his heart and release him from the slavery of unforgiveness and bitterness.

XO to Babe, the sweetest soul on the boards!