Quote: I for one would love to hear stories from others out there who have tried this, I bet there are some fun ones.
I did the Wonder Makeover Plan when my change in thyroid meds helped me lose 30 pounds practically overnight. Finally. I figured it was happening, I was going to maximize it.
My physical changes happened when the behavioral and emotional ones were just beginning. No fun realizing you still have the real work to do! But it did seem to help get attention for the others as I make them.
Quote: Haven't all the experts told us that men are more "visual", while women are more expressive emotionally or orally.
Every single one of my male friends and family members has given many compliments about my "new look". I saw H notice immediately every change I made-- but at first I got questions or snide remarks, not compliments. At one point, he said he did not "care for my new look"... this was on a day that I looked great, IMO. (Later he mentioned that he was not looking so good these days and he knew that.)
A few of my male friends have also remarked on the non-physical changes I have made, though not as quickly.
Quote: Not everyone can make radical changes to their appearance by losing weight...but there are other changes you can do that get attention. Using them along with character changes might get some of us the attention we need to get our emotional changes noticed.
I got more physically active. I now hike, ride my bike in the woods though not enough, learned to kayak (water was a fear of mine), do a lot of yoga and lift weights. I go for things that are fun rather than "Exercise" with the capital E.
This big change--made for me-- also turned H's head, esp. when I packed my mountain bike on the jeep and went on a little road trip or went kayaking with mutual friends.
When you lose a certain amt. of weight there is a built-in "reason" to get new clothes (which require accessories and shoes ). I did this too. No longer wearing shapeless drab clothes, folks! Mom is so pleased. I have added color, fun style and items made to fit petite frames (yes, I finally accepted I am a short girl, LOL).
When you feel comfortable in your body, shopping is more fun. Plus there are lots of places to get bargains. I like outlet stores or online shopping for best deals and quality.
Lingerie is a great change, even if the H never sees it (nicer when they do, though). The key is buying pieces that YOU like, not that are somebody's image of sexy.
I also lightened my hair and changed the style a bit a while back. H picked this up immediately. Same with painting my toes more often and wearing my toe rings again (who knew they would come back in style--good thing I am a packrat!). Immediately noticed this too.
Most of these things I did a long while ago. I've kept them up consistently. It's less a "new" me than finding the original me again. That's why I find my H's responses interesting-- because I look and feel an awful lot like a improved version of the girl he married.
). I did this too. No longer wearing shapeless drab clothes, folks! Mom is so pleased. I have added color, fun style and items made to fit petite frames (yes, I finally accepted I am a short girl, LOL). 
