Letting go for my own inner peace

[kiro]

Irish, happy birthday for your girls.

Re-forgetting and forgiving: I have a cousin whose H left her many years ago. She suffered like most LBSs and raised her daughter on her own. Her H was a real jerk, cake eating, having multiple affairs, etc. Anyway, it's been maybe 10 years or more. She is a very loving and forgiving person. She somehow managed to find that peace inside her, she totally forgave him, and accepts him as a friend now.

I asked her how can you be his friend after everything he did to you and your daughter.

Her answer was "It just happens when time passes... you forget all this... it happened to me after the divorce... I felt angry at first and then with time your feelings change and you feel they are just an acquaintance with whom you have something in common (the kids) so they are closer than just an acquaintance.... now we are ok together and all the anger is gone"

These are her exact words that I copy/pasted. Maybe 1 day, you (and I and others) will be able to get there too