You know I congratulate you on all the effort and great results! Wow, wow, wow!!......You take your bad self down any street and enjoy those admiring glances!!
" It's sort of weird, though. It took for me to lose weight for me to see that Mr. Wonderful refused to see the changes in me until my physical appearance changed. I'm sure the men have some enlightening thoughts on that observation...
To be brutally honest, the 20 lbs came off with a little hard work and a conscious desire to succeed, but overall, was much easier than changing my thoughts and behaviors." __________________________________________________________
I REALLY agree with you there....as hard as changing the phsical appearance can be....the emotional changes are the most hard to do. Maybe we should all be giving ourselves more credit when we realize the commitment and energy it takes to lose just five pounds compared to the inner changes we have been trying to make!!
Haven't all the experts told us that men are more "visual", While women are more expressive emotionally or orally.
Pornophraphy is deemed more interseting to men than women? Because of the visual stimulation.
So I guess we shouldn't be surprised that they notice MORE when our physical appearance changes first than when our emotions and responses do.
That may also be why women change hair color, clothing, make up, jewelry etc. etc.
I mean look at what men wear........ pants and a shirt, pants and a shirt .....Now granted there is some variation, but it's pretty basic for men.
For women getting dressed is a major league operation sometimes!Pants? skirts?( all different lengths)Suits, dresses? shorts? skorts? jeans? casual? semi casual? business? business casual? dressy, semi formal? slutty? work out wear? cleaning out the garbage chic......old bathrobe comfortable! ?????
Then the accessories!
My god, a man puts on his watch and he's "dressed up"!!
Betsey, remember my little earring trick??? and how nervous I was about changing EARRINGS for god's sake!!heheheh
Men are just very basic creatures...let's face it. And there's nothing wrong with that! They are not women so why should we expect them to respond as women.
Great lingerie works too!( even letting them see you in it!) We fix up our minds, we fix up or bodies, why should we not fix up our wardrobes....I don't mean bust the bank!! I mean Kmart and Walmart sell stuff too, ya know!
I for one would love to hear stories from others out there who have tried this, I bet there are some fun ones.
What I find truely interesting is how it takes the physical change for them to NOTICE the emotional ones.
Like when I got out of the car after my H hadn't seen me for three months (I was less 33 lbs) he actually "wowed!" me( didn't think I heard him!)...and he immediately responded differently... The big thing was it was up to me to keep those changes in place.To keep being aware that I wanted him to respond differently and to not take me and my responses for granted. For him to keep seeing me in a new light. To surprise him with my reponses not being the same old, same old LONG ENOUGH for him to make changes in the way he responded to me.
Maybe this is an area of 180 that not enough of of use??
Not everyone can make radical changes to their appearance by losing weight...but there are other changes you can do that get attention. Using them along with character changes might get some of us the attention we need to get our emotional changes noticed.
Men don't look at themselves all day...if they did they'd see pants and shirts pants and shirts...ho hum! They look at women...........and they look and they look and they look( hopefully they don't touch!) But they do look! I'm sure in part because they like to see variety and they like the stimulation of "New".
So give em' something new every once in a while! I have noticed a number of times someone will get on here and tell about getting their hair cut a new way, or get a make over and how great they feel...Like a new person!! It's good for YOU too! It gives you a fresh outlook and a new perspective.
Here's to change!!!!! Let's not be afraid of CHANGE!!
I know you're gonna have a great weekend...no matter what you do.....!!!!!!
BTW, Betsey...your low cal Mai Tai, is sitting here beachside! Cheers.
.....Now granted there is some variation, but it's pretty basic for men. 
