I really liked Coconut's last posting about boundaries, i.e., especially about leaving the dessert off the table.

The last paragraph is very wise advise. Sometimes, we have to be the ones to change things up in order to have others change/respond.

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.