I feel in a better place today - calmer and more stable. Thanks for all the advice; I have a clearer picture of the way forward. Steady the ship, do nothing, make no decisions; wait for the storm to pass.
I very much have to take the focus off her and put it back on me and my kids, for my own sake.
I know I can't control her behaviour; she is going to do what she wants for her own journey to happiness and independence;
sjohns6 - I have read your thread and I could have written it myself. Word perfect.
Its comforting to know the journey is similar and I'm not alone.
