My wife's midlife crisis

[kiro]

FM, you already got all the advice I wanted to give. I've also seen and heard it all exactly the same from my W, almost word for word.

You sound better than your first message. No one can deny that it is a tough time. You will go through ups and downs. This is part of the process that you will have to go through. When you're feeling down, accept the pain and know that it will not last forever. Breathe and try to focus on something else, but like someone said, take it a minute at a time, then an hour at a time, etc.

Don't make major decisions when you are in such an emotional state. Give yourself some time to think it through.

I repeat what MarvinF said: this is a marathon. It will take time for her to snap out of it, but it will also take time for you to process all of this and to calm down. The emotional cycles between pain and relief (hope and despair) will be more intense and more frequent at the beginning. With time, you will still have ups and downs but they will be more tolerable and you will stay a longer time feeling good. Start detaching and focusing on yourself and your kids.

Keep venting. Anything you write here is ok (you can just read some of the non-sense I sometimes write in my threads).