FM, So my W moved out just over a month ago after 18 months of in house MLC. I was feeling much like you. I can honestly say that as much as I didn’t want her to move, I am able to relax again finally. It will make it a little easier on you and it will be very eye opening once it happens. I actually didn’t realize HOW MUCH it was affecting me.
Having said that, be prepared for her to drag her feet during the moving process. Once my W made the decision to move, she was all about it. Of course then she wanted to wait for the right time to tell the kids so over a month went by before actively looking. Then she drug her feet in finding a place. Then she drug her feet in the actual move process. She has only been out for just over a month, but she made the decision to move MONTHS ago. Once I KNEW she was moving, waiting those months was agonizing. I think she thought she was doing me a favor or something. At one point I finally told her that although I didn’t want her to move, she had made the decision to move so I needed her to hurry it up and get her stuff and move out.
So, as eager as she may or may not be to move, be prepared for her to move slowly on it. She MIGHT need to be hurried along a bit to save your sanity. Sorry you are going through this...it is awful and almost EVERY SINGLE WORD you have said that your W has said, mine has said too. I’m a good man, I deserve better, she just can’t do it, she needs to go find herself and be independent, etc, etc, etc.
