Faceman

I have asked that same question many times

Read the DNJ reflection on hope

Very helpful

Short version is hope is good

Hope with a timeline equals expectation

Expectstion is bad

Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids
2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong
2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2
2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving