I agree - cousin needs to KEEP OUT OF IT, it almost certainly seems like pressure to him and cousin apparently hasn't gotten the message to BUTT OUT.
As for him not texting - you're letting your insecurities run away with you. Now, maybe it's a sign he's just not that interested, but maybe that's just the way he is or an expression of his ambivalence.
I suggest you enjoy your date with him, refrain from drinking too much, and then wait to see if he asks you out after. He may just be a guy who feels that he's locked in a date with you, nothing else needs to be said until he's there. Some men are like that.
Or for all you know he is resisting you with ALL HIS MIGHT, sweating to keep his fingers away from the phone and texting you because DESPITE him not being ready to date he's SO attracted to you.
Or maybe he's an avoidant or a workaholic and that's why his ex divorced him.
The bottom line is, anything is still a possibility and you haven't gathered enough data to know yet. If after your next date you feel like things are still great between you two, THEN maybe you could ask him why he's so silent on contact between dates and you can evaluate whether his answer seems adequate. I understand he's not speaking your love language right now and maybe that will be a dealbreaker but it's just too early in this process to make a decision.
