She is still in the very selfish mode and she's still got a while to bake in that oven.
Gordie, continue as you have been, i.e., keep the focus on you and your children and leave her in the oven to bake.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
