So equalzr, one of my big pieces of advice to LBHs like us (my sitch was similar to yours except my W was in an EA not a PA) was to burst her fantasy bubbles as often as you can. My W had a fantasy that she would get a job, get an apartment and get a divorce. I'd keep the house, and my D would live with me. And then we would "play house" occasionally. With her still having full access to the house, and us having dinner as a family either in the house or at her apartment. She also had this idea for a quickie, online divorce (not possible when kids are involved!).

Some things I did.

I told her we were selling the house. She was all like WHY? I said it was no fair that she gets to move away and start this new life and expect me not to. And I also started bursting the the "we'll still be friends" bubble. All words. But then I contacted a lawyer. Shattering her quickie online divorce fantasy.

Start bursting fantasy bubbles.....it might wake her up. It is also called taking back respect.

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018