My story. Advice needed

[equalzr]

I wonder if there are different degrees of MLC? My wife has definitely been discussing a D as I found that out a while back when I was snooping. She also believes we can possinly continue living as we are now until S finishes high school. That doesnt seem like a normal thought process to me. Shes married, has a relationship and affair going on, and thinks we can live like that? I guess she figured she can steing me along with leaving reconciliation open ended and a possibility.

I ask about the different levels of MLC because I dont really see confusion or a fog in her eyes when i look at her. I see hatred at me at times when something gets brought up that triggers her resentment. Also, she seems like herself for the most part except the bad choices of A, neglecting our S, and extreme shopping. She seems really happy and has maintained her personality for the most part.