I see. So I should have taken care of my need first and then did what she asked. I think that would have worked.
Kind of....
What I am trying to say, is that it is okay to verbalize your needs too.
It seems that you had always had an agenda, that you weren't real good ( as most guys aren't) at verbalizing....
Why not say what you are thinking ??
It's the balance that I was talking about...
Ebb and Flow buddy...
I am sure that there are times when you would have walked in, she asked, and you would gladly do what she asked without any problem...
There will be times when you walk in, she asks, and you have something else on your agenda. It doesn't mean that you won't do what she asks, it just means that you have a want/need that you want/need first.
Just verbalize your needs/wants/frustrations, rather than letting them build up....
Would you call yourself an introvert , or an extrovert ??
Your spouse ? What would you say that she is....???
