Is there hope? Part 2

[DnJ]

scoobs7, there will be days like this. You are living a crazy nightmare, your emotions are going to be all over the place. Be easy on yourself, you are doing really good.

You waited three hours to tell her about son’s pet. Then she gives you an OMG an hour later. Why the delay from her? She wants quick communication today, tomorrow she’ll want to keep it to a minimum again. She has already cycled through this before.

Important stuff about the kids do quickly, and I mean really important stuff. For everything else wait 24 hours. Give yourself time to compose and ensure you are not just speaking emotionally.

I had a hard time inserting a delay onto our conversations, I had never put her off before, always stopped what ever I was doing to talk. The delay is not for her it is for you.

Communicate directly with her for things you need to tell her, do not go through the kids. For example, of course let kids know pick up times, but text W the same info. What she does with it is on her.

I am pretty sure you would like her to contact you directly so you may have to lead by example on this.

Try not to worry about her complaints about not communicating quickly about son’s games, life, etc... She is pushing buttons, do not react, allow yourself time to respond. My W did the same, now she doesn’t; even talk to me or the kids.

Hope your day gets better.