My story. Advice needed

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Thanks a ton kiro. Its sad that its already been a year and a half already since Ive known something was going on, and that she may be nowhere near the end of it yet. Im trying to take that turn and just work on myself for me, and devote myself to beong a great father which is what ive always done since my S was born.

Its also sad that she doesnt see spending time with OM takes away from our S as well. He very well notoces that its 1:30...2:30 am etc and mom isnt home yet. She doesnt think its any of his business and that he only notices because of me. My S is a high schooler, how does she figure that he wont be worried, mad, and finally start to put thongs together. Hes had both parents at home for years and then mom goes awol. She spends so much time away from home, and comes in at late hours probably 3-5 nights a week. Shes basically licing a double life and running two homes. Sad to see her rip the family apart.

Im guessing her therapist will tell her to take care of herself and make herself happy. I really dont know if all therapists are qualified to deal with MLC (if this is truly it)? It sounds almost like one needs a therapist who specializes in MLC.

Yes, i have been a GOOD man, not great I realize now that there were some shortcomings, but in the grand scheme I was all about family and loved them to death. We always got along great with each other too. Im glad I found it while we still live together, but I fear that I will have to move out soon as I cant keep sitting around through this. Shes paid the mortgage while i was a stay at home dad for the last 9 years. I was the bread winner for years before that, but that was when we were renting. Im not sure if moving out would be a step in the right direction and help shake her oit of this, or if it would be a step in the wrong direction and just enable her???