My story. Advice needed

[kiro]

How a woman can go out and be with another man and then come home to her husband at night like nothing is wrong comletely mystifies me. It seems she thinks what she is doing is fully justified

Hi Equalzr, so sorry you have to live this nightmare. As many on this forum, I went through very similar things. None of it makes sense. I heard the same script from my wife almost word for word. You can spend literally months 24 hrs per day trying to make sense of it and you wont. You will analyze every possibility, you will blame yourself, think what could you have done differently, but you still wouldnt be able to justify her actions. I know you read Sandi s explanation on my thread. I recommend reading AmyC explanation of what a MLCer goes through.

I am sorry to tell you that it could be a long ride and you may be at the beginning of it. Do what Steve and others suggested, for your own sanity.

I will give you my 2 cents about your question above. We see a lot of evil and wrongdoings in life, but we never expect someone so close to fall in it. What Sandi explains is probably true, but it does not justify the behavior. If you know it is wrong, then trust me she knows it too, whatever justifications she gives. But temptation is strong. What is important is that you should keep your faith and trust yourself and your values. Follow the advice you get here but continue doing what is right.