WW, Will I be loved again?

[joejoe1]

Chris,

You are super attached and super demanding. Being detached is not about getting away from your WW, it's about discovering yourself. You have to be detached in a Marriage as well. You have to be able to be yourself and be free. You are forcing W to do things she doesnt want to do. Nobody, not even LBS like doing things that are being forced on them. Let go and detach, become your own man. Being free and being faithful or two different things. When you can be free and be yourself in a M, it's easy to be faithful.

My W had sex with me while she was still talking to the OM. I say that because, sex is what it is, and no more. So I was having sex with my WW, the OM had her emotions. You are not trying to gain sex from her. You are trying to gain respect. All your actions are losing you respect. Without respect there cant be love, stop making demands of your W, when she hasnt fully committed to the M.

I'm sorry, but having a joint FB account, shows weakness. Please let that go. What you really want is transparency. IMO, you want to be able to check her FB anytime you want without her objections. Stop making demands and start demanding respect. And demanding respect is not being mean or nasty. It's not saying, "I demand respect". It's all about your actions, when she does something disrespectful, you call her out on it. When you create a boundary, you hold her to them. The moment you start respecting yourself, the moment others will do the same, even your WW.

You want to pull her close without pushing her away, start by stopping the demands on her.