Encouragement to keep going, hopefully, and to not buy the kool-aid his wife is selling.. Sharing my experience is all I have to give. Yes she is jealous of her own children. Why is that? I don't know, but I'd guess it's because she didn't have that unconditional love as a child. She felt short-changed and maybe thought, "oh, marriage and my own family will fix me"
No. That doesn't work. If a child doesn't get their needs met by their parents, they grow up with a hole inside that can only be filled by themselves doing the hard work. Their kids can't fill it. Their spouses sure can't fill it, even though the MLCr expects them too and is furious at the spouse for "falling short and not meeting their needs" - unreasonable, impossible needs. That video explains it brilliantly and might be something that gives Gordie hope if he gets down.
My post to Gordie was hopefully to elucidate my feelings about this topic in a way that encourages him to keep going, as he's facing what I believe is the worst of the worst: having to live with the MLCr while they make up their mind about whether to stay or go. Make no mistake, she's still making up her mind about that.
Maybe he should have been a certain way all along. Only Gordie and his wife know that for sure. (Red Flag #1) but the other two statements - straight from the MLC handbook these folks get at whatever secret meeting they all go to when they join Club MLC. She still has a ways to go.
Hang in the Gordie. Continue to be the amazing man you are who only a fool would leave. Continue your GAL. Continue to encourage your wife in whatever ways make sense. Don't drink the kool-aid, no matter how it's packaged.
#TeamGordie#1
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
