Love is patient and kind and does not envy and is not proud and does not boast
It does not dishonor others is not self seeking is not easily angered and keeps no record of wrongs
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices in the truth
It always protects always trusts always hopes always perseveres
Love never fails
Yes we read that at our wedding
Thanks Gordie. We read that at our wedding also. And I cannot tell you how many times I repeated it in during my marriage, most especially in the years leading up to BD as well as the 20 months between BD and finalizing our divorce. It didn't save my marriage but it certainly helped me get through very difficult times.
Originally Posted by Gordie
1 she no longer feels trapped and feels like she can be who she wants to be and likes how I have changed in this regard and I should have always been like this
RED FLAG #1
Originally Posted by Gordie
3 she feel like I still love the kids more than her and supports them and their interests in a sacrificial way that I have never doene for her
RED FLAG #2
[quote=Gordie] 4 she feels like I will never love her the way she wants to be loved and that she should just accept that I have always de prioritized her and I always will and she should just accept that as her reality[/Gordie]
RED FLAG #3
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That being said - my belief is that a great number of MLCrs are broken because they did not get the kind of love and support they needed as children. They then look towards the spouse to provide them with the kind of unconditional love only a parent can provide. In the absence of a parent providing that love, the individual must do the hard work to heal and provide that love to his/herself. This isn't your job, Gordie. This is absolutely the work she needs to do. And yes, they then get resentful because the spouse might be exactly the kind of parent they always wanted but didn't get.
(can you tell I've heard a similar speech)
Google "Will Smith Happiness" Watch that video. Watch it a few times.
All that being said, take the conversation with a grain of salt, keep your expectations at zero and do what makes YOU happy, trusting that you'll be taken care of in the way you're meant to be.
#TeamGordie
xoxoxoxo
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
