Continue as you have been. She is at least recognizing the changes that you have made (I hope that those changes were for you and you are happy w/them and not just changes to make her change her mind). The changes will now need to be permanent fixtures in your life.
Your w is still looking for someone to fall over, kiss her feet and make her number one and yes, put her up on a pedestal. Listen, no matter how hard you try, she is going to continue to find fault in one area or another. That's why it's important to continue as you have been and not jump through hoops playing the "pick me dance/I can change and make you happy, just tell me what to do dance".
When she talks, continue to listen and validate her. If she says something that you know isn't quite right, just say "w, I'm sorry you feel that way" and leave it. She's still not figured out that happiness comes from within and not from external sources. It's not your job to make her happy and to love herself...she has to do that.
Keep the focus on you and your children. She's still a work in progress.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
