I will be absolutely straight with you.

I think your H is sensible in his desire for a childfree life. In 10 years time an 8 year old may be a problem for him.

I know you love your H, but it is likely to come to a decision of children or M. In 30 years time you are likely to be alone so think very carefully about your decision. If you decide to have a child by H and make that a unilateral decision then I believe he will walk anyway. He didn't think this through properly. His friends may think you tricked him into M which isnt the case, but it leaves you very isolated and unsupported. I hope you have a good friend IRL who can guide you a little.

Age gap M with the gap as large as yours have a less than 1% chance of survival. The odds are heavily stacked against you in this M. That's just stats though.

As long as you are here and wanting to DB your M then this is a good place to be.

V


Last edited by Vanilla; 07/21/18 03:15 PM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose.
V 64, WAW