Gordie #20: patiently living my life

[Gordie]

So w initiated a R discussion for the first time since January

1 she no longer feels trapped and feels like she can be who she wants to be and likes how I have changed in this regard and I should have always been like this

2 she now enjoys the time she spends with me not too much and not too little maybe she wants more but does not want to commit to that

3 she feel like I still love the kids more than her and supports them and their interests in a sacrificial way that I have never doene for her

4 she feels like I will never love her the way she wants to be loved and that she should just accept that I have always de prioritized her and I always will and she should just accept that as her reality

I tried really hard to just listen and validate and not defend or counter attack

And then she gave me a hug and said goodnight