Friends: Season 2--The air has cleared

[SadBurl]

Guys this has been so enlightening

My H NEVER responded to my crazymaking. He doesn't like to argue, so he would just walk away. This would make me crazier! I would follow him and yell more. He would still ignore this. Finally, I would calm down, and usually cry and say I was sorry. We would then have sex. Yes, Briget, make-up sex is awesome! Now, for years I did this. The payoff was that I got the closeness I was looking for in the end.

Pamela this is me to a T. All I wanted was for H to fight back, a huge loud row, instead of just sitting there quietly saying nothing. The less he said the more i cracked. Eventually tears, hysterics, shouting and then the guilt, the tears, the I'm so sorry please forgive me etc etc etc. And then although I got closeness I had the horrible feeling of dread and well nothing.

If I had been someone looking from the outside I would have thought commit that woman.

Since joining BB I have learned that this aint the way (Yes Ive learned something ). I realise H needs more pyschological space than me. If I make a point then I need to walk away and let him come to me. Overwise I need to move on. This is not easy and I really have to force myself to deal with this sitch but I'm hoping that with time it will just come naturally.

I wish H could read this thread and see that I'm not pyschotic and that there is a way through this.

Joanne

PS Probably too late being on the other side of the pond but GO BETSY!!!!!!!!