We live in London and today we are off to Dorset for a weekend to visit his friends- two couples who have been married for more than 25 years, all around my H age and older. I made a stupid mistake to call one of these friends about 6 months ago when I was at my wits end and while crying on the phone I told her how neglectful my H is that he let me down in such a major way. She seemed very supportive at the time but then I found out that she took the sides and told my H everything... but I was silly. Of course she would take his side beacaue I am a much younger wife and a foreigner and they all very English and been friends for some 40 years. I remember that she texted him ( I used to get access to my H phone.. I know.. bad- all this was before I was looking for support and found this forum) in the text she wrote- that I am a Bunny Boiler, suicadal and will do something bad to him. It was unbelievably hurtful as I never indicated anything like that, she must have been sick in the head to write something like that. Since then I haven't told her anything and she would be the last person I would call in times of distress, however I am still seeing his friends often and I have to keep up with appearances... of course they all know now about our troubles since that call. I will do my best to be the best person I am...
W34 H61 M1 T3 June-H said he wants divorce but hasn't filed. Living and sleeping in the same bed, no intimacy from H side for last 12 months.
