This is what most of us are hoping for.. maybe not recon anymore but a realisation on their part. Some kind of apology and regret for their choices.
I read other stories and many people who have reach this point gave their ex another chance and re-lived it all over again years down the road. Once the cheater gets settled and gets bored, they run for it again. They miss the gf or no longer can handle a house full of kids.. constant readjusting. I beleive that they can' t be happy for long period of time. They do not appreciate what they have. They are constantly looking for excitement no matter what the people around them feel.. these are my observations. The percentage of couples making it after bomb in my region is very low. Not zero but low.
Now, an update:
D18 made plan to go kayaking with her father this week- end. My truck ( work) came in as my shift was ending. I called D15 to let her know i had to stay and she would have to walk to work. Her shift started at 4h00. I also asked if she saw D18 today. She said she was home and ex-h was on his way to pick her up. When D15 got to the store, she said ex-h was at the french fry stand and did not offer her a ride to work. She was abit upset because it was 33 degrees outside. Very hot .. i was almost done and decided to stay abit longer to make sure i would not meet up with ex at home.( they had to load D18' s kayak). Well, that did not help. He came to the store. ( it has been months since he showed his face at my work place) . He brought supper for D15 and came to talk to me about D15' s boyfriend. Ex-h has been enquiring to each of us about him and told me he would pick up D15 next week-end and would have a talk with her.
Sounds sweet and caring right? Well i use to think so but now, i always think there is more to it. I truely think he is afraid she will move in with them if i move and he does not want her to. How many times has he tried to get son out of his place in the past? He got raid of gf's 2 kids. He says he loves them all but he cannot bare the responsability and obligation that comes with children.
