It was a no win situation at the school because I went to greet the kids then noticed other people, then finally noticed W with a lot of school equipment to pack. I thought to myself 'whatever I say or don't say will be wrong' - I know the people would have slagged me off to W if I didn't offer to help her packing the school equipment. W would have also used it to help justify to those people why she left me. Those people are mutual friends so I didn't want them to take sides.
Kids told me that W parents had left for a few days. That will have given W time to herself to think, and requiring her to look after the kids by herself (which she has rarely done and she hadn't respected me for doing it). It might help to explain why W is now looking increasingly sad and troubled but I'm expecting her to start D proceedings asap so it could be that too. For someone that had left and said she was much happier, she doesn't now look it.
The way I look at it - I'm now far more attractive (lost a lot of weight, better clothes, better hair) than the me she left, she is very impressed with the major changes I've made to the house, I have done a major personal achievement, I've done a great job raising the kids without much help, the kids miss me more and more. I have learned a lot of things I could do to make M better than it has ever been. I would be willing to try to forgive her.
However, W needs time and space to get her head together and deal with her own issues but I know she is very busy and has pressure from her parents who she now lives with. My main concern is that W will want a very quick D so she won't have the time and space required for DB.
