For the record Don I don't understand what's up with people sometimes, but I certainly never interpreted anything you said as boastful. We're talking about dating here, and frankly, at a certain age, things like careers, financial status, retirement accounts and interests, are actually much more important to our dating choices than they were when we were younger. I also imagine some might take my talking about being in a band as boasting - but I talk about it here because I think it's important for people after a divorce to expand their horizons of what is possible - nobody, I mean NOBODY in my life would have expected me to learn to play the drums and vibraphone in my 50's and end up playing with real life serious musicians - least of all ME! It was the shock of the divorce that shook me out of my self-imposed constraints and this was just one example of what can happen when you let go of preconceived notions.
As for Wild Girl - it's interesting for me, as someone who has dated Love Avoidants in the past, to see how you respond to her. The more space she gives you the more interested you are. And it seems like you share a real compatibility even though some things don't quite line up with your previous preferences - which is a good reminder for us all not to get too locked into our preconceptions. I understand your fear of possibly hurting her feelings and those of the family you know if it doesn't work out, but I also remind you - she IS an adult. You haven't made any promises and neither has she. That being said, I'm glad to see you're enjoying the relationship.
CMM definitely is pursuing me - a bit much in the beginning - so I can really appreciate what it must be like for an Avoidant when someone comes on too strong. Last week he brought up maybe buying season tickets for the theater - starting in the fall - and that seemed a little presumptuous to me! Even though I am really liking my time with him, we're just at different places - me, cautious and "show me", him, "yahoo, dream girl, let's jump in!". Seems like you and WG are actually better matched in that way.
