I get all of that. I think. I guess I just need to figure out for myself if there is any point in trying to "win her back" by doing the LRT, if I eventually realise that I cannot forgive her the affair in whichever shape or form. And that is the bit I am struggling with right now. I have good moments where I am focussing on GAL and being awesome, only for reality that my marriage is probably over to hit me in the face again.
Well, I think you have this backwards. The LRT isnt to 'win her back'. The LRT is to give YOU the space that YOU need to make your own changes. If you are constantly hurting yourself by checking in with her and temperature checking your R with her, you arent going to be able to evolve. By being in LRT, you get the space to make the decisions you want to make about your life. It's about taking your power back.
And.....as a side benefit......maybe she will get interested/curious in what she is missing. I mean, maybe not....but either way, you come out of it OK.
