I get all of that. I think. I guess I just need to figure out for myself if there is any point in trying to "win her back" by doing the LRT, if I eventually realise that I cannot forgive her the affair in whichever shape or form. And that is the bit I am struggling with right now. I have good moments where I am focussing on GAL and being awesome, only for reality that my marriage is probably over to hit me in the face again.
I sure as hell am not thinking of ever having a relationship again only to run the risk of being hurt like this again, so the only person to be awesome for is myself, full stop. Well, and for my dog. Dogs are the better people anyways.
