My story. Advice needed

[equalzr]

Question:

Ive looked at Sandi's 37 rules, looked over the detatchment link, and also saw a page about LRT. I think Ive looked over so much stuff the last few days that my head is spinning and some of it is running together. Its great information, I think im just trying to take it all in too fast as one can expect. That said, should i be completely detatching and not doing anything with the W, or still going to family function, church functions, etc? What is the cutoff? I guess some of the issues in our relationship were me not doing things she wanted to at times and turning down invites, so Im not sure what would be counterproductive and make things look the same as in the past? Should i do my own thing and not invite at all, or leave open invitation that doesnt bother me if accepted or not? Should I turn down all of her invites?

Thanks!